On my saturn return.

October 11, 2021

Haven’t done one of these in a while, but it’s National Coming Out Day so here we go, nearly 3 years out of the closet.

My Saturn Return is here to remind me that queer people are not safe by default. That we are much more likely than the average person to carry trauma that causes us to hurt people. That we need to be actively investing in ourselves through therapy and healthy outlets in order to quell and unpack our destructive tendencies. That sometimes we grow apart from the people who helped us on our journey, and other times they fail to keep up with our growth. This can and should be okay.

I am on a lifelong journey to be the most authentic version of myself. The pursuit of meaning. And I will make mistakes along the way. We all do. The difference is whether you are willing to do the work to own up to those mistakes and cause less harm in the future. I try my best.

Today, and on all days, I invite anyone struggling with their gender identity or sexuality to a safe and confidential space to talk it out with me in my DMs. I am only a message away.

When I came to terms with my transness, I faced an ultimatum: come out or leave this world. I am grateful every damn day for making the right choice, and you will be too. I guarantee it.

I love you all.